I love Thanksgiving – the parade, the pie, the return of our very mischievous “Elf on a Shelf,” but one thing I do not get into is BlackFriday madness, or, as my father likes to call it, Black Friday B.S.!

Not only do I not enjoy being up at 3am for any reason, but there’s a frantic energy of that “busiest shopping day of the year” that I just can’t relate to.

I get it. It’s a huge day for anyone who has anything to sell. People are looking for a deal and are prepared to buy! But one of the things on my gratitude list this year is YOU. I am humbled and thankful for your presence in this little virtual family we have, so rather than selling something to you, I’d like to create something for you.

Hit reply, (really! please do!) and tell me what you need. What product or book do you wish existed? What do you need that you haven’t yet found in the market? The muse is here and she is radiant. So talk to me. Let’s make some magic and blast into 2015 all hot and sparkly and fulfilled!

Contact me and tell me what you want me to create for you.

Thanksgiving is more than a holiday. It is a state of mind. =)

This is about the day I realized I had a messed up relationship with pleasure. And I am wondering if maybe you do too! It was spring and I was taking one of those magazine quizzes and the question said, “Fill in the blanks: Pleasure feels__________________.” To my surprise, (and horror) the first words that came to my mind were:

• Bad.
• Guilty.
• Selfish.

WHAT!?!?! I was shocked. I honestly had no idea that I felt that way. It was quite a wake up call. I did some deep thinking and realized that this troubled relationship I had to pleasure was possibly affecting my sex life, my time with my friends, my self care and even my willingness to eat really quality food! For some reason feeling really good felt really wrong. I didn’t really want to dive into the psychology of my past to find out why so instead, I decided right then and there that my entire summer would be devoted to bliss. I made up my mind that everything I did would be in pursuit of or in support of multiple joygasms. 

Joygasm- a solitary moment of pure bliss; a recognition of being in total flow; an absorption of love, peace, passion and happiness.

Multiple Joygasm- a commitment to ensuring that at least 75% of your life is filled with joygasms.

And I did it! I spent my summer sipping good wine, eating good food, sitting by the bonfire with friends, meditating, allowing for some unbridled passion, playing with my children, catching fireflies, living life. It was bliss. And I got addicted! That summer project turned into a life-long promise.

Pleasure is awesome. Feeling good is holy. Unapologetic self-care is sacred. (click to tweet this)

So go ahead. Get some. ;)

This last week I had the pleasure of spending several days with people who are at the TOP of my industry: powerhouse millionaires like Lisa Sasevich, Rich German, Loral Langemeier, Noah St. John and Sean Roach. It was incredible.

But here’s the thing. I wasn’t sure I would be able to go to this meeting, so I booked it kind of last minute. Other people who came were ULTRA prepared to corner other experts, push for joint venture partnerships etc. They had binders, expensive 4-color sparkly folders and oddly shaped business cards all with the goal of standing out. I started feeling a little off. Squirming in my seat. My energy dropping a bit. And I realized I was coming down with the commonly diagnosed but never fun condition known as…

COMPARISON-ITIS!

Have you ever suffered from that? Just a little dip in self confidence because you got distracted by what other people were doing?? It didn’t matter that my last program had over 500 sign ups and some of these other folks weren’t even in business yet. It didn’t matter that I was profitable in my first 90 days of business, or that I had co-authored a best selling book. I forgot those things simply because my business cards were the standard size and I had opted for the no-gloss finish. Silly isn’t it?! Thankfully I got over it and I remembered one thing:

I AM my business card.

And so are you. Whether you have a business or not, every time you walk into a room, a conference, a party, a Starbucks, you are bringing with you a unique, divinely appointed set of incredible stories, talents and gifts.

You don’t need any bells and whistles. You don’t need anything at all. Because what you have to offer the world stands on its own two feet. It is your soul tapestry. Your character is your fingerprint. Your values and your talents are the unique, unmistakable watermark you leave on the world. And if you walk forward confidently, with faith in the person you’ve been lovingly shaped into, you cannot lose.

I realized, as I sat and chatted with people doing AMAZING and truly unique things, that we are all here with the same end goal in mind – to share, to support and to make an impact. I left there with brand new deep friendships, a plan for my next best-seller and a bunch of fiery entrepreneurs ready and willing to help make our Happiness School launch the best one yet. But I had to open up first. I had to step into my power, remember my gifts, and truly show up at each meeting with the intention to spread, absorb and cultivate LOVE! It works. Love yourself up. Stay in service. Hold your faith up high and watch the blessings roll!

Go forward and share your brilliance.

Ever have one of those weeks where the very thought of being “you” is overwhelming and exhausting? That was me last week. My energy was the lowest it’s been in a long time. I had no motivation to work, found myself falling asleep at 8:30pm with the children and even canceled some of my appointments. I was in a terrible frame of mind which is especially frustrating for someone like me. I kept thinking, “I teach this crap! I can help everyone else shift to a higher place, why can’t I help myself this week!?”

I did what anyone normal person in my situation would do. I ate some Doritos and watched a Super Soul Sunday marathon.

But then I got tired of feeling like a victim and I got smart. I emailed my friend Hemal Radia. You know him as THE Law of Attraction of Expert, but I am lucky enough to know him as Hemal, the friend who always makes me laugh and kicks my butt back into gear. I loved his response to me and I wanted to share it with you.

Hemal wrote:  “Usually the best way of addressing something is to identify exactly what it’s about – address the specific source of it.
“The reason oftentimes people do not deal with something (and a clue of that is it keeps coming back) is because they haven’t gotten to the root of it.

“Ask yourself, “What specifically is the issue here?” and when you get the answer, feel free to ask more specificity questions including “So what?”, “So why is that an issue for me?”, “And why is THAT an issue for me?”, “And that?” and so on.”

I LOVED that answer because it reminded me that a bad mood (even one that lasts an entire week) is nothing more than information. And when I stopped feeling sorry for myself and followed Hemal’s advice, I knew EXACTLY what the root of my mood was. And once you know the source, you know the course. I could then begin to take action to shift and grow. Bad moods are just information. They are just there to shine a light on something you need to deal with, release or change.  

I also asked him how he determines between ego chatter and God’s will.

He replied: “People presume that the miraculous and most amazing experiences come from ‘destiny’ and “God’s will”, but wouldn’t dealing with resistance at whatever level someone is at count as part of that journey? You’ve got to start where you are, after all, eh? I believe the most miraculous experiences generally come when we are higher in our energy or in fragments of higher energy (as inspiration and creative flow) but we need to get there along the way and deal with our emotions and resistance, so why can’t they be part of “destiny” and “God’s will”? What I might suggest is to get in touch with yourself, your values, your spirit (which is in the opposite direction of fear – a different frequency) and raise your energy so that you are operating from a place of strength and empowerment rather than of fear and what might go wrong. If you couldn’t get it wrong what would you choose? If you couldn’t fail, what would you do? If there would be no criticism of you, what would you choose?”

BINGO! If you ask those three questions you get to the heart of what you actually WANT, you get real with yourself. And that is the starting point for lasting change. Getting real is where it’s at. It’s where you make space for the new and it’s the threshold you step over to become the person you are meant to be. 

As usual, I walked away from Hemal feeling lighter and back to my warrior self. In fact, if you want a few free sample chapters from Hemal’s book, (and I highly recommend it!) click here.

Remember, your mood is just that- a MOOD. Its not your reality. It’s a temporary circumstance gifted to you as valuable information about yourself. Shift into search and solve mode. Find the lesson underneath the mood. Use it to shape and transform your beautiful life!

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