Category: Decisions

  • I Quit

    I Quit

    I hope you’ll take just five minutes to read this. Because it will help you. I’ve been thinking about you. And how to share this. How to reach out after so long. And because I’m human it went something like this:

    I should really write something..

    But it’s been so long…

    What if they don’t even remember me?

    What if they’re mad? Or worse, what if they didn’t even notice?

    And what the hell is that smell? (Mom thoughts)

    I’m going to tell a story… and if you want to feel happier, and who really doesn’t, I think you’ll like it.

    It explains something I discovered this year and is also the reason you haven’t heard from me.

    So, I had to walk a REALLY rocky path to get to the big gorgeous ending of this story, but it was worth it.

    If you’ve known me a while, you know that about two and a half years ago, a confrontation with my own truth led to a painful, but ultimately blessed divorce.

    At the time, I was a few years into a Copy Writing and Branding business that allowed me to make that change, support my kids, have lunch with my friends, travel to California a few times a year, and basically do all of the things that society deems “successful.” I enjoyed a couple of years of not bothering to look at price tags, taking afternoons off to go to yoga and generally congratulating myself on a job well done.

    But then? I got uncomfortable. Like REALLY uncomfortable.

    You know… Like when your soul knows some shit about you and knows you know it too and is looking at you like this:

    Girl, please!

    I couldn’t ignore it any longer. I had been allowing the bright side of success to cloud another, HIGHER truth that I hold sacred.

    It doesn’t matter how big of a game you’re playing if you’re playing the wrong game.

    Here’s how my thirty personalities broke this down for me:

    I really don’t love what I’m doing.

    But you’re so good at it and it WORKS.

    Yeah, but I’m not really inspired by it.

    So what. You have three kids to feed, you don’t have the luxury of being inspired all the time. You should be grateful.

    Wait what? That’s absurd. Why bother if it’s not feeling like fun, sparkly, beautiful, mystical magic anymore?

    Um. Cuz you’re an adult.

    Yeah? Well it’s overrated. I quit.

    Then, my friend died.

    Katie was my age. We had been friends for 34 years. She was truly the kindest, happiest human being I knew. Mother of two little boys, children’s book author. Diagnosed with a TERRIBLE disease that stole her voice, then her ability to move, her memory and in a few short months, her life.

    As I read the obituary, the hundreds of social media posts and heartfelt condolences, I started thinking… If this were me, if it were MY time, what would people say about ME?

    I started writing… would they say, “She was a loving mother and could write some serious sales copy.” Ugh. Would they say, “She was really great at playing it safe?”  Yikes. Katie had lived her life EXACTLY how she wanted to. And her death made me question EVERYTHING I was giving my precious time to.

    Before I share with you the conclusion, I want you to ask yourself this question-

    WHAT TRUTH ARE YOU IGNORING? What truth is your soul WELL aware of, and just waiting for you to admit? What would you be PROUD to read about yourself?

    Really think about that, because here’s what happened next.

    I felt stuck. Then I felt sad. Then I started blaming OTHER things that were actually perfectly fine. Then I started noticing that I was snapping at my kids and resenting things like spilled coffee. And that’s really how you know you’ve gone way off course.

    If spilling coffee causes you to wonder why bad things happen to good people, you need a change honey. Make no mistake. This was PAINFUL. A broad and flexible form of despair that made no sense to most everyone who knew me and who only saw the highlight reel.

    So, I stopped. I still committed to my regular clients. But I stopped taking on new ones. I stopped answering the phone. I energetically shoved away anything that felt like a disruption in flow. I threw up a wall to anything that even remotely insulted my soul. And I realized that I had taken myself to ground zero.

    I had basically, consciously dismantled a six-figure business. Courageous or insane?

    Time will tell. But here’s what I know for sure.

    You cannot outrun your truth. You may stay a few laps ahead of it for a while, but it will start whispering.

    Shhhh” you’ll say and go on with life. So, it will get louder, clawing at you, shouting, until you can’t ignore it anymore and suddenly you’re crying in public, getting insulted by random Facebook posts and considering your first tattoo. (Maybe that’s just me).

    YOU HAVE TO BE WHOLE.

    You see, I am a writer, yes, and I write awesome copy, content and brand strategy for small businesses and entrepreneurs.

    AND.

    I am a spiritual teacher. A motivational speaker. And a reluctant intuitive.

    I am all those things. So, what did I finally figure out? (I thank you for your patience.)

    Success is only possible and sustainable through SACRED INTEGRATION.

    You need to feed ALL parts of your whole in order to be truly happy.

    I needed to do the same. I needed to feed the part that was spiritual AND the part that was sexy. The part that was strategic AND mystical. The part that knows how to make money AND the part that can find the exact words to tune someone into their own HIGHER truth.

    I am no longer able to do things that aren’t aligned with a HIGHER perspective. A HIGHER motivation. A HIGHER level of awareness.

    I won’t get into some of the things I ran into in my industry that really had me questioning my faith in humanity, but I will say that I could no longer play a role in it, no matter how shiny and VIP-ish that role was.

    I am a mermaid. No fear of depth and a great fear of shallow bullshit. You must be willing to leave the comfort of the surface to find the treasure in the deep.

    And that’s how I came to the launch of my new company, HIGHER MEDIA GROUP, and its inaugural community, HIGH SOCIETY.

    But this is not business as usual.

    We are redefining what it means to be HIGH SOCIETY. Our mission is to be a home for people who are committed to living, working, earning, loving and thinking at a HIGHER level. For people who know that success is not measured in numbers alone, but in numbers AND peace.

    We pencil in workouts. We pencil in meetings. We pencil in car-pooling commitments and committee obligations and a thousand other things. And we forget to pencil in PEACE.

    You must pay attention to ALL Of your parts. You must pay attention to the part of you that straight up wants more money. And the part of you that appreciates a stunning work of art. And the part of you that longs to be comfortable in your sensuality. And the part of you that is ready to go deeper, to shine brighter, to RISE.

    It ALL matters.

    Please. Stop thinking that you’ll handle THIS problem once you’ve handled THAT one. Stop fragmenting your happiness. Stop feeling guilty for wanting more. Because the truth is, this is your time here. And it’s not infinite.

    Integrate. Align.

    And RECEIVE, RECEIVE, RECEIVE!

    Let 2019 be the year you PAY ATTENTION. The year you finally realize that the clock is ticking and that there’s beauty everywhere and that you’re entitled to be a part of it.

    With love,
    Gina

    P.S Thanks for reading.

    If you’d like to be a part of the NEW High Society, I’ll be telling you how you can join after the first of the year. No velvet rope. No application required. No huge and unattainable price tag. If you want a discount code, just hit reply here and tell me one truth. One thing you can no longer ignore. One sacred agreement with yourself! I might not know you personally, but I love you. Because that’s how the new High Society rolls. Love and light and Happy Holidays!!!!

  • My 3 step process for making a decision

    Just popping in quickly to share something with you that has helped me over the last few months.

    I have had a LOT of decisions to make, both personal and professional. It’s a tricky situation to be in when you are an indecisive commitment phobic.

    Here’s my inner monologue-

    I need to make a decision.

    What if I make the wrong one?

    Maybe if I just ignore this it will go away.

    Shit its not going away.

    I need to make a decision.

    doubtful woman

     

    Since it doesn’t seem that anyone is going to magically appear to help me, and the universe seems to be fresh out of neon signs that say “Do THIS,” I have had to come up with my own litmus test – the 3 step alignment test.

    Here’s how it works.

    When you have a decision to make, scan your soul, your body and your heart.

    Soul scan – Make sure you know your list of non-negotiable feelings. Fill in the blanks: I strive to live a life that makes me feel____________, _______________ and ____________________. Does this decision move you CLOSER to feeling those three things? Does it work against any of them? If the decision will definitely help you embody your non-negotiables, its a yes.

    Body Scan – Our body holds so many answers for us that we miss because we are distracted by life and family obligations and funny cat videos. Turn off the distractions. Think of the decision you have to make. Pay attention to the physical reactions that naturally happen. Do your shoulders slump, or does your chest open in a show of happy expansion. Do you feel lighter or heavier? Is any pain present or do you feel completely at ease, and find yourself taking deep, replenishing breaths? Or is your heart beating fast in protest?

    Heart scan – What we are looking for here is ENTHUSIASM. When you think of your decision, first think about how you would feel if you choose one way. Are you EXCITED about that possibility? Now try the other way. Which visualization fills you with hope and enthusiasm and which fills you with a kind of prison-sentence dread?

    That’s it. Every decision should pass the body, heart and soul scan.

    Otherwise, you are ignoring the intuitive wisdom of your Source and you could end up at the corner of regret and self-loathing. Not a great area to end up in after dark.

    As they say, if it’s not a “hell YES!” it’s a no.

  • Please don’t say this anymore

    Last week, I had a crazy experience! I was introduced to a new spiritual adviser. I scheduled a session with her, and went on to have the most amazing 60 minute conversation I have ever had in my life.

    I cannot even begin to share the incredible insights she revealed to me. It was as though she had x-ray vision and saw right through to my soul. I laughed, I cried, I wrote down important dates for my business. I forgave and released and breathed in the holy energy of the divine. It was surreal.

    A really important pattern emerged throughout our conversation. I rarely trusted myself and yet I was almost always right.

    How often do you hear yourself say “I don’t know what to do.” If I could, I would drive to your house right now, take you by the shoulders, look deep into your eyes and say to you, “My dear friend, you absolutely DO know. You are just afraid; afraid of being right;  afraid of the consequences of following your heart; afraid of the change you might have to navigate.”

    Because that is the truth. We always know. It’s a gut level knowing. Pay close attention to what makes you feel the anguish and what makes you feel the peace.

    Click to tweet this!Stop saying “I dont know what to do.” You DO know. Instead say “I don’t know what will happen.” That’s your truth. Own your wisdom.

    Hold onto your power. Saying “I don’t know” is the same as saying “Here, take my power.” It’s ok to not be ready to make a decision. But at least OWN your wisdom. Maybe you know EXACTLY what you want, but you also intuitively know that the time isn’t right to move towards it. That happens. But you still “know.”

    How many times have you heard about an unfortunate divorce and thought to yourself “I knew he was no good.”

    Or how many times have you done something that went terribly wrong and heard yourself say “I knew I should never have gone there,” or “I knew I shouldn’t have called her.”

    Your body wisdom will never lie to you. The words that are whispered to you from your source are words of TRUTH. Hear them. Heed them. Make a commitment right now that in 2015 you will start trusting your own instincts. Remember, you aren’t in this alone. Your instincts are the whispers of the divine. So it’s ok if you aren’t quite ready to trust yourself. Trust the divine instead.   Learning to listen to your own instincts will save you years of heartache and regret.

    This has been a public service announcement from someone who took a stupid number of years to learn a very simple lesson. 😉

    And if you are in the market for a little amazement, I’d be happy to share the name of my new spiritual adviser. Just contact me and ask.