Fear is the primary reason that some soul mates never try. It’s the reason so many dreams are left abandoned on the side of the road. It’s the reason brilliant people die with books still inside of them.
The other day I was frustrated with my daughter. She was refusing to brush her hair and when I told her it would look messy she said, “so what my face is still cute.”
It reminded me of a weird trick I once read to combat fear.
Fear based statements often begin with the words “what if.”What if I try and fail? What if he doesn’t love me? What if it doesn’t work out? Etc etc.
From now on try adding the word “so” to your “what ifs.” My daughter didn’t care if her was messy. She’s gorgeous, and she knew she still had a whole lot of other stuff going for her. And so do you.
Instead of “What if I write the book and it never gets published?” Try “SO WHAT IF it never gets published? I will still have put my story to paper, which is more than a lot of other people would do and maybe someone will find it someday and be changed by it’s wisdom.”
“What if my launch doesn’t make any money?” changes to “SO WHAT IF my launch doesn’t make any money. I will have learned exactly what my audience does NOT want and can adjust accordingly. There’s a bigger, better offer waiting to pour out of me.”
“What if I move to a different city and hate it?” changes to “SO WHAT IF I move and hate it. My feet won’t be shackled to the floor. I’ll just move again!”
Nothing is irreversible and thanks to Google and YouTube there is nothing that cannot be learned or solved in some way.
So write the book. Start the business. Take the trip.
SO WHAT if the result is different than you expected?Different can be freaking beautiful! Different can open doors you hadn’t thought of and show you gifts you didn’t know you possessed.
The only thing you have to fear is REGRET.
You’ve got this. Doesn’t matter what happens or how it turns out.
You’ve got this.
Just took my family on a trip to Disney World. It was amazing to be able to give them that gift. A few years ago it would have been impossible. Fear held me back for YEARS. Fear kept me from following my dreams, from making money, from stepping into my gifts. Now? My courage speaks louder than my fear. Here are a few pics from the trip.