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One Soul, One Goal

Ever watch the news and find yourself thinking, “WTF?!”

Sometimes it seems like every where I look there is something to be scared of. A war brewing, violence erupting, trees being burned, women being assaulted, men being demonized.

I’m an empath, so sometimes I see these things and it really gets me down.

And then I look up… and I shift my gaze… and I see it…

The love.

The light.

The stories of people overcoming tremendous obstacles and triumphing over adversity.

I see people helping other people.

And the sun peeking out, throwing sparkles over the snow.

I see myself in the mirror and remember what I went through this past year.

And I think about the people who got me through. The friends, the mentors, the incredible healers who blew my mind with their intuition and Divine gifts.

I see my kids and their innocent hearts and their wild and hilarious imaginations.

I see women finally having a voice.

I see men finding the courage to lean into their sensitivity, to their spirit, coming to the realization that STRENGTH is in vulnerability.

And it’s all so freaking beautiful!

 

A few years ago I ran a program. The Miracle Project. And the reviews were astounding. I stepped away from it when my business took on a new direction but I never quite put it down.

It kept whispering to me. Kept tapping me on the shoulder.

And then, more than one intuitive reader told me that it is indeed my life’s work. Which of course, I already knew.

 

So today I am listening to that nudge from Spirit. I am not running that program yet, and I’m not sure I will, but I know I am supposed to be having this conversation. So I have opened up the FREE Facebook group, One Soul, One Goal. Here’s what its all about:

One Soul, One Goal was born out of a commitment to raising the collective consciousness through truth, love and light. Our mission is to inspire 1 million people to live more consciously as a bridge to a deeper, more meaningful experience of life!

We hope to inspire with “user-friendly enlightenment,”meaning, that this conversation, this way of life, is available to anyone who wants it!

Together, we can make an impact. Together we can light the way. Together we can triumph over negativity, judgment and fear.

We are all one, sharing this one earth, sharing this one human experience. We are, in essence, one soul, sharing one goal of happiness, success and unconditional love and acceptance.

 

Do you believe that if we commit to living better, every day, for just a few minutes, that life can change?

Do you believe that truth, love and light can indeed win?

Do you believe that you can live a “real” life, swear a little, enjoy wine and reality TV and STILL be on a conscious path?

If you answered yes to any of those, please come and join the group and help me by inviting your friends to join too! Let’s see how many people we can get to take a baby step towards purpose, joy and abundance.

You can join for free by clicking right here.

Because life is short. And you are Divinely supported. And you can have it all.

Dreams, Deals and Bullsh*t

Ever get emails that sound like this?

“This will never happen again at this price!”

“This is the ONLY WAY to get happy and rich!”

“In just six weeks, your life will be exactly what you want it to be!”

Or they have a tone like this:

“Here’s a shot of my mansion in this luxury city and you don’t have one yet because you’ve never worked with me.”

or

My life is amazing because I am my own boss and you’re unhappy because you’re not.”

So much of it is complete crap! And the first week of January is LOADED with emails like these. (Gotta capitalize on all that resolution stuff right?)

You want the truth? Here’s the truth.

I can’t blame them, as our business mentors teach us that we are supposed to represent the “after” of the before and after scenario.

Have I made great money doing what I love? Yep.

Did I navigate a horrendous personal situation and come out the other side with a completely transformed spirit and a peace and resilience NO one thought was possible? Yep.

Do I enjoy a pretty great reality that allowed me to take yesterday off and spend the day with my honey, and a day off last week to drink chardonnay at noon with my friends? Yes.

But I’m not the after honey.

I’m the middle. There is no AFTER.

Living a great life- a life of bliss and beauty and love and purpose and abundance, has nothing to do with reaching a concrete milestone.

Write the book. Make six figures. Meet the man. Lose the weight. Those are all great goals. Great dreams. But I can promise you they are NOT the end. They are not the “after.”

The “good” life comes from one thing and one thing only – ALIGNMENT. Daily, consistent commitment to alignment.

The dictionary defines alignment as “an agreement or alliance.” What alignment is to us is an agreement and alliance between our soul and our reality. A contract between our hearts and our daily lives. A commitment to attuning our truth to our choices.

Listen I’ve published a best-selling book on amazon. I’ve made the six figures. I’ve spoken on the stages and met the celebrities. Did ANY of it permanently enhance my daily experience of life? No.

What finally DID? Alignment. Making sure I knew exactly what my non-negotiable feelings and values were.

I want to feel: Love, Light, Creativity, Connection, Significance, Freedom, Abundance.

Free time, money, love, creativity, purpose, connection to spirit, connection to family and friends.

Those are the things I will not negotiate on. I have actually lost clients who didn’t like the fact that my team and I don’t work weekends. I didn’t sweat it, because there’s always another client and my weekends with my family are NOT on the negotiation table.

She offered me a LOT of money on monthly retainer, but basically, I would have to be at her beck and call. No thanks. Because I knew what would happen. I would be cranky as hell, resenting her, resenting the work, and not doing a very good job because of it. We would BOTH lose.

One of my colleagues recently said to me, “I have worked SO hard to fill my program that my wife honestly threatened to leave me.” Um.. ok. The whole point to selling your program was so you could spend MORE time with your wife, so how does it make sense to work SO hard at it that she might not be there at the end? That’s some major misalignment and a sure fire fast track to disaster and regret!

With every decision I make, I ask myself this question:

Is this decision in alignment with my non-negotiables? Does it keep me feeling how I want to feel and having what I want to have?

If it doesn’t, it’s a no. No matter how scary or painful it might be to walk away from, it’s far more painful to be out of alignment with your soul, breaking contract with your heart and suffering massive spirit fatigue because of it.

I can promise you that your truth will not mislead you and you will find yourself living the life you imagined.

But it doesn’t happen in the AFTER, it happens in the middle. What the after actually is, is the peace of living in flow and alignment on a DAILY basis. It’s not a destination you reach, it’s a way of life you commit to.

So, what are your non-negotiables? How do you want to feel? And are your choices in alignment? Are you honoring the contract between your reality and your soul?

If not, this is the year to do it ok?

I’m with you.

 

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Something special for my fellow heart-centered entrepreneurs. Are you are pushing, striving, not sleeping, not enjoying your business, frustrated, overwhelmed and working too hard for too little in return? You are out of alignment honey!

Would love to work with you in a private Align and Define VIP session. “Freedom business” can feel like a big fat joke if you are chained to your computer and STILL can’t get a client. Freedom comes from flow and flow comes from alignment. Period. Read more here and let’s get you on the calendar and set up for a much easier 2018!

 

A Negative Side to Positive Thinking?

A few years ago I hit the emotional equivalent of rock bottom. On the outside I looked like a cross between a Maybelline ad and a catchy sitcom. Kinda cute, mid 30’s, fit, three kids, devoted-ish husband and the two story home on the cul-de-sac. Because this is a blog post and not a ten book series I’ll spare you the details, but the story includes a failed business, a dipping self-worth, an uncertain relationship with my spouse, a questioning of my faith, a widening gap between myself and my confidence as a mother and the general feeling that everything was sinking and no one was noticing my frantically waving hands or my smoke signal…

Read the rest of this article on the Huffington Post.

Good Riddance 2016

Good Riddance 2016
Anyone else relieved to see this year get the hell out of here?

I am. And some day, when I have processed and healed from this massively transformational year, I will share with you WHY I am happy to be kicking 2016’s ass right out the door.

I do love the New Year though. (Not New Year’s Eve. Always hated it. WAY too much pressure to find something amazing to do and way too many amateur partiers posting morally questionable pics on Facebook). But I do love a new beginning.

And my team and I are committed to NOT just being more noise in your inbox so I wondered if you could click and answer the one question below so we can chat about things that really matter to you:

What is the single biggest challenge in your life right now?

Thanks. Cheers to a rebirth, a sacred awakening, and the empowered choice to not settle for “good enough.”

Best. Poem. Ever.

So I’m going through a bit of what my friend Kate Crow calls a personal tsunami. You know, … the kind of thing that you are sure only ever happens to OTHER people .

And maybe someday I’ll talk about it, but for now I wanted to share with you the words that have sustained me. They are the words of a poet named Erin Hanson who lives in Australia, and isn’t even old enough to drink but writes with a depth that you just don’t see these days.

 

Best Poem Ever

 

Here it is:

 

Maybe you’re a wild fire but I’m a mighty oak.

And my roots extend much further than your flickering flames can choke.

So send your smoke towards me, what you see here’s only bark;

And I am far too strong to fear the keen sting of your spark.

Now listen to me wild fire, oh the sky is turning gray.

You better make it fast,for I know rain is on the way.

And then you’ll finally realize your mistake before you go;

That I will never fear you, for you help my forest grow.

So take me down to ashes, make me crackle make me burn.

And from all this destruction, even stronger I’ll return.

 

You see I used to think that the wild fire represented insults and injury.

Then in a different phase of this, I thought the wildfire might represent challenges.

But now I know the truth. My truth.

The wildfire is, and always has been, the one thing that can indeed take us down to ashes.

The thing that can make us burn and wilt while underneath it all simultaneously doing the treacherous but vital work of helping us grow.

The wildfire isn’t challenges or injury. It’s the one thing that, no matter how threatening or uncertain, we find the courage to invite again and again into our lives.

The thing that begins with a spark, can shift to a rage, can end with a gray and exhausted smolder, but is still a better choice than hiding untouched, with no need for courage or strength.

The wildfire… is love.

Can we talk about our underwear?

Tell the truth. If I saw your under garments right now would you be embarrassed? I promise I have a point.

The other day, I was cleaning out my closet and when I got to my…um… delicates I was faced with the startling realization that there was a pair of fancy underwear in there that I had bought specifically for my senior prom…in 1994!

I went to the store immediately and bought a whole bunch of pretty unmentionables, but it got me thinking – business is great! Why then, had I not purchased anything nice for myself in 20 years! (To be clear I HAD purchased underwear in the last 20 years, just not super sexy rock star ones!) I started to look around at some of the other areas of my life that were stuck in “scarcity”, “what if” and “not enough”. Makeup from the dollar bin. Cheap shampoo.

My soul and my work had emerged beautifully into abundance, but there were clearly still parts of my mind that were holding fast to a very narrow definition of “possible.” There must have still been some corner of my soul that didn’t feel worthy of all the awesomeness! Buh-bye old belief system!

I just finished reading Denise Duffield Thomas’s Get Rich Lucky Bitch (SUCH a fun and quick read!) and she suggests upgrading in baby steps. A better bra here, a fancy coffee there. And you know what? She’s spot on.

So here’s what I want you to do for yourself in the new year. Flip the switch to ON. When you start to upgrade step by step, you send a message to the universe that  you are READY to receive! I get it. Looking in the mirror and affirming “I’m a millionaire” just makes your inner witch say “yeah RIGHT!” It’s what my friend Noah St. John calls the “belief gap.” And it can crush your manifesting mojo! But taking tiny steps, making incremental upgrades FEELS good. And when you feel good, you attract. It’s that easy. Buy the better coffee. Get the brand name purse. Not ten of them. Just one. And it doesn’t even have to be about buying anything. Light candles for your bath. Put on music while you cook. Do things that make you feel good.

Click to tweet this!Feeling good isn’t a luxury, it’s a privilege of being alive. Make more moments in life a “hell yes!” (Click to Tweet this!)

I would love to hear what baby steps you are going to take to up-level your life. Leave a comment and let me know!

Why you aren’t making money

Ever just get tired of thinking about money?

Before I started this business, I remember a conversation I had with my friend in which I said, “I don’t need to be a millionaire. I just want to go to bed without thinking about money. I want to eat out twice in one week and NOT feel guilty about it. I want to buy a new freaking lipstick without feeling like I’ve just taken money out of my kids’ mouths!”

The bills were being paid (usually on time) but it just never seemed like there was ENOUGH. Aa certified Law of Attraction Coach I get a LOT of emails from people centered around the universal language of “not enough.” And I have found that there are a few main reasons that people fail to enjoy the kind of wealth they are meant to enjoy. That’s right. You were BORN to be wealthy. And there is an endless supply of money out there that belongs to you. How long are you going to leave it sitting there unclaimed?

So check out this list. Get really honest about where your money gap is. That’s the first step to closing it!

FIVE THINGS THAT MIGHT
BE MAKING YOU POOR

  1. You have adopted the false belief that money is something OTHER people have. You have it too. Its already yours. Now you’ve got to expand your container for receiving it. Picture yourself walking through a desert and a waterfall appears. How much water can you take? Depends on the size of your container right? Make the container (your mind) HUGE and expansive knowing that in doing so, you are able to receive and fill it with enormous amounts of abundance. (By the way you don’t need tons of money to make tons of money. You need the guts to invest a little to make a LOT.)
  2. Your definition of wealth is warped or you’ve forgotten to manage your expectations. Focus on GROWTH and GRATITUDE. The richest things in life have nothing to do with dollar bills. Love, family, creativity, sex, joy, nature. Those are the things that are RICH. Be grateful for those. Feel the wealth of abundance in those intangible things and you set yourself on a wavelength to attract abundance in ALL forms.
  3. You need to get responsible. There are endless stories of people who came from nothing and went on to be self-made millionaires…during the great depression. It’s not the economy’s fault. It’s not your parent’s fault, or your husband’s or anyone else’s. Your results and your circumstances are in YOUR hands. When you expect anyone else to provide your dream reality you are setting yourself up for resentment. Resentment and regret are the taxes you pay for not taking charge of your life.
  4. You have no idea what your true purpose is and have therefore failed to take action. So many people do this backwards. I was guilty of this for years. They think they need to be clear before they act. But action gives birth to clarity. Do something, anything that FEELS good and clarity will come. When it does, follow it, feed it, feel into it.
  5. You lack the foundation. Your wealth house is built out of cotton, not bricks. If you are an entrepreneur you need a business that is aligned with your soul and primed for profits. If you’re not making money you’ve got a spiritual gap or a strategy gap. You either aren’t connected to your vision, you’re not effectively communicating that vision to your audience or you’re not connecting it to their greatest need. The great news is that it’s all fixable!

Those are just a few of the things that keep people from claiming their wealth.

Remember, broke is a temporary circumstance. Wealth is a state of mind.

The One Thing Happy Women Know

You’ll want to read this one all they way to the end!

There are health coaches, sex coaches, business coaches, success coaches and probably coaches for just about anything you can google. But here’s the deal– if you get happy, all of those other things start to take care of themselves.

So how do you get happier? I’ve been blessed to speak with some of the happiest, most successful people on the planet and they all shared one common value (and it’s kinda tough to hear) :

Responsibility.

You’re cute and you probably could rock a glass slipper, but no prince charming is coming to save you. And you know what? That’s freaking fantastic. (To be clear, he may indeed walk in, but you will have already been saved.)
Price Charming

You have every bit of power you need to be your own hero, to write your own happy ending. To buy your own diamond ring (or house, or over-priced yoga clothes or whatever else it is that makes your mouth water.)

Happiness is not an exclusive club.

Everyone on earth, regardless of genetics, geography or circumstance has the opportunity to lead an expansive, amazing life. It’s truly a responsibility that you CHOOSE, with enthusiasm, to take on for yourself.

Successful WomanResponsibility says:

  • I hold the keys. I’m in the driver’s seat. I don’t have to wait, I can start now because the solution lies with me.
  • I am in charge of my peace and prosperity.
  • I am CEO of my life. I decide who stays, who goes, my company mission statement etc.

Blame is passive. Responsibility is productive.

Waiting is painful. Responsibility is empowering.

Victim-hood says “I can’t believe I suffered like this.” Responsibility says “My journey and my struggles have made me colorful, powerful and one of a kind.”

Sorrow is the belief that things are only getting worse. Responsibility asks “Where in this challenge is the opportunity to learn and grow?”

You can stay safe or you can soar.
You can keep your baseline or defy genetics

and circumstance and get what you want.

So after you read this, take stock of what parts of your life aren’t going the way you want them to. And just for a moment, imagine that you have everything you need to turn it around in your favor (because you do). What would you fix, change, release or expand?

Contact me or leave a comment and tell me. I’m happy to listen, happy to help, happy to celebrate with you once you’ve done it!