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A Negative Side to Positive Thinking?

A few years ago I hit the emotional equivalent of rock bottom. On the outside I looked like a cross between a Maybelline ad and a catchy sitcom. Kinda cute, mid 30’s, fit, three kids, devoted-ish husband and the two story home on the cul-de-sac. Because this is a blog post and not a ten book series I’ll spare you the details, but the story includes a failed business, a dipping self-worth, an uncertain relationship with my spouse, a questioning of my faith, a widening gap between myself and my confidence as a mother and the general feeling that everything was sinking and no one was noticing my frantically waving hands or my smoke signal…

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Good Riddance 2016

Good Riddance 2016
Anyone else relieved to see this year get the hell out of here?

I am. And some day, when I have processed and healed from this massively transformational year, I will share with you WHY I am happy to be kicking 2016’s ass right out the door.

I do love the New Year though. (Not New Year’s Eve. Always hated it. WAY too much pressure to find something amazing to do and way too many amateur partiers posting morally questionable pics on Facebook). But I do love a new beginning.

And my team and I are committed to NOT just being more noise in your inbox so I wondered if you could click and answer the one question below so we can chat about things that really matter to you:

What is the single biggest challenge in your life right now?

Thanks. Cheers to a rebirth, a sacred awakening, and the empowered choice to not settle for “good enough.”

Best. Poem. Ever.

So I’m going through a bit of what my friend Kate Crow calls a personal tsunami. You know, … the kind of thing that you are sure only ever happens to OTHER people .

And maybe someday I’ll talk about it, but for now I wanted to share with you the words that have sustained me. They are the words of a poet named Erin Hanson who lives in Australia, and isn’t even old enough to drink but writes with a depth that you just don’t see these days.

 

Best Poem Ever

 

Here it is:

 

Maybe you’re a wild fire but I’m a mighty oak.

And my roots extend much further than your flickering flames can choke.

So send your smoke towards me, what you see here’s only bark;

And I am far too strong to fear the keen sting of your spark.

Now listen to me wild fire, oh the sky is turning gray.

You better make it fast,for I know rain is on the way.

And then you’ll finally realize your mistake before you go;

That I will never fear you, for you help my forest grow.

So take me down to ashes, make me crackle make me burn.

And from all this destruction, even stronger I’ll return.

 

You see I used to think that the wild fire represented insults and injury.

Then in a different phase of this, I thought the wildfire might represent challenges.

But now I know the truth. My truth.

The wildfire is, and always has been, the one thing that can indeed take us down to ashes.

The thing that can make us burn and wilt while underneath it all simultaneously doing the treacherous but vital work of helping us grow.

The wildfire isn’t challenges or injury. It’s the one thing that, no matter how threatening or uncertain, we find the courage to invite again and again into our lives.

The thing that begins with a spark, can shift to a rage, can end with a gray and exhausted smolder, but is still a better choice than hiding untouched, with no need for courage or strength.

The wildfire… is love.

Can we talk about our underwear?

Tell the truth. If I saw your under garments right now would you be embarrassed? I promise I have a point.

The other day, I was cleaning out my closet and when I got to my…um… delicates I was faced with the startling realization that there was a pair of fancy underwear in there that I had bought specifically for my senior prom…in 1994!

I went to the store immediately and bought a whole bunch of pretty unmentionables, but it got me thinking – business is great! Why then, had I not purchased anything nice for myself in 20 years! (To be clear I HAD purchased underwear in the last 20 years, just not super sexy rock star ones!) I started to look around at some of the other areas of my life that were stuck in “scarcity”, “what if” and “not enough”. Makeup from the dollar bin. Cheap shampoo.

My soul and my work had emerged beautifully into abundance, but there were clearly still parts of my mind that were holding fast to a very narrow definition of “possible.” There must have still been some corner of my soul that didn’t feel worthy of all the awesomeness! Buh-bye old belief system!

I just finished reading Denise Duffield Thomas’s Get Rich Lucky Bitch (SUCH a fun and quick read!) and she suggests upgrading in baby steps. A better bra here, a fancy coffee there. And you know what? She’s spot on.

So here’s what I want you to do for yourself in the new year. Flip the switch to ON. When you start to upgrade step by step, you send a message to the universe that  you are READY to receive! I get it. Looking in the mirror and affirming “I’m a millionaire” just makes your inner witch say “yeah RIGHT!” It’s what my friend Noah St. John calls the “belief gap.” And it can crush your manifesting mojo! But taking tiny steps, making incremental upgrades FEELS good. And when you feel good, you attract. It’s that easy. Buy the better coffee. Get the brand name purse. Not ten of them. Just one. And it doesn’t even have to be about buying anything. Light candles for your bath. Put on music while you cook. Do things that make you feel good.

Click to tweet this!Feeling good isn’t a luxury, it’s a privilege of being alive. Make more moments in life a “hell yes!” (Click to Tweet this!)

I would love to hear what baby steps you are going to take to up-level your life. Leave a comment and let me know!

Why you aren’t making money

Ever just get tired of thinking about money?

Before I started this business, I remember a conversation I had with my friend in which I said, “I don’t need to be a millionaire. I just want to go to bed without thinking about money. I want to eat out twice in one week and NOT feel guilty about it. I want to buy a new freaking lipstick without feeling like I’ve just taken money out of my kids’ mouths!”

The bills were being paid (usually on time) but it just never seemed like there was ENOUGH. Aa certified Law of Attraction Coach I get a LOT of emails from people centered around the universal language of “not enough.” And I have found that there are a few main reasons that people fail to enjoy the kind of wealth they are meant to enjoy. That’s right. You were BORN to be wealthy. And there is an endless supply of money out there that belongs to you. How long are you going to leave it sitting there unclaimed?

So check out this list. Get really honest about where your money gap is. That’s the first step to closing it!

FIVE THINGS THAT MIGHT
BE MAKING YOU POOR

  1. You have adopted the false belief that money is something OTHER people have. You have it too. Its already yours. Now you’ve got to expand your container for receiving it. Picture yourself walking through a desert and a waterfall appears. How much water can you take? Depends on the size of your container right? Make the container (your mind) HUGE and expansive knowing that in doing so, you are able to receive and fill it with enormous amounts of abundance. (By the way you don’t need tons of money to make tons of money. You need the guts to invest a little to make a LOT.)
  2. Your definition of wealth is warped or you’ve forgotten to manage your expectations. Focus on GROWTH and GRATITUDE. The richest things in life have nothing to do with dollar bills. Love, family, creativity, sex, joy, nature. Those are the things that are RICH. Be grateful for those. Feel the wealth of abundance in those intangible things and you set yourself on a wavelength to attract abundance in ALL forms.
  3. You need to get responsible. There are endless stories of people who came from nothing and went on to be self-made millionaires…during the great depression. It’s not the economy’s fault. It’s not your parent’s fault, or your husband’s or anyone else’s. Your results and your circumstances are in YOUR hands. When you expect anyone else to provide your dream reality you are setting yourself up for resentment. Resentment and regret are the taxes you pay for not taking charge of your life.
  4. You have no idea what your true purpose is and have therefore failed to take action. So many people do this backwards. I was guilty of this for years. They think they need to be clear before they act. But action gives birth to clarity. Do something, anything that FEELS good and clarity will come. When it does, follow it, feed it, feel into it.
  5. You lack the foundation. Your wealth house is built out of cotton, not bricks. If you are an entrepreneur you need a business that is aligned with your soul and primed for profits. If you’re not making money you’ve got a spiritual gap or a strategy gap. You either aren’t connected to your vision, you’re not effectively communicating that vision to your audience or you’re not connecting it to their greatest need. The great news is that it’s all fixable!

Those are just a few of the things that keep people from claiming their wealth.

Remember, broke is a temporary circumstance. Wealth is a state of mind.

The One Thing Happy Women Know

You’ll want to read this one all they way to the end!

There are health coaches, sex coaches, business coaches, success coaches and probably coaches for just about anything you can google. But here’s the deal– if you get happy, all of those other things start to take care of themselves.

So how do you get happier? I’ve been blessed to speak with some of the happiest, most successful people on the planet and they all shared one common value (and it’s kinda tough to hear) :

Responsibility.

You’re cute and you probably could rock a glass slipper, but no prince charming is coming to save you. And you know what? That’s freaking fantastic. (To be clear, he may indeed walk in, but you will have already been saved.)
Price Charming

You have every bit of power you need to be your own hero, to write your own happy ending. To buy your own diamond ring (or house, or over-priced yoga clothes or whatever else it is that makes your mouth water.)

Happiness is not an exclusive club.

Everyone on earth, regardless of genetics, geography or circumstance has the opportunity to lead an expansive, amazing life. It’s truly a responsibility that you CHOOSE, with enthusiasm, to take on for yourself.

Successful WomanResponsibility says:

  • I hold the keys. I’m in the driver’s seat. I don’t have to wait, I can start now because the solution lies with me.
  • I am in charge of my peace and prosperity.
  • I am CEO of my life. I decide who stays, who goes, my company mission statement etc.

Blame is passive. Responsibility is productive.

Waiting is painful. Responsibility is empowering.

Victim-hood says “I can’t believe I suffered like this.” Responsibility says “My journey and my struggles have made me colorful, powerful and one of a kind.”

Sorrow is the belief that things are only getting worse. Responsibility asks “Where in this challenge is the opportunity to learn and grow?”

You can stay safe or you can soar.
You can keep your baseline or defy genetics

and circumstance and get what you want.

So after you read this, take stock of what parts of your life aren’t going the way you want them to. And just for a moment, imagine that you have everything you need to turn it around in your favor (because you do). What would you fix, change, release or expand?

Contact me or leave a comment and tell me. I’m happy to listen, happy to help, happy to celebrate with you once you’ve done it!